It is important to teach yourchildren self-respect because it sets a good foundation for the rest of their lives. My favorite kindergarten teacher in all the world is named Liz Friedman. She is kindergarten teacher at Gladwyne Elementary school where my children go to school. One of the first thing she teaches her students is that they should show themselves good friendship. Self-respect goes along with good friendship. When we teach our children self-respect we give them a tool that will serve them well all their lives.
There are 4 powerful reasons it is important to teach our children self-respect:
1. We train others how to treat us
2. Respect, like charity, begins at home
3. Sometimes, respect must be shown, even if it is not earned
4. The Golden Rule
We Train Others How to Treat Us
It is important for children to know that we train others how to treat us by what we allow them to do and by how we treat ourselves. When our children treat themselves with respect, dignity and grace, it shows others what we expect. Children who respect themselves set a clear and visible standard that will be evident to all who observe them. Even without saying a word, it will be evident what type of treatment our children expect from others.
You can find serenity in learning how to show your children love. Children are funny. No matter what we do for them, no matter what sacrifices we make for their benefit, if we deny them a cookie before dinner, they feel unloved. We must find ways to show our children love in ways they understand and appreciate. Recently I asked one of my young daughters what was her favorite thing about me. For the few seconds while I waited for her response my mind wandered. I thought bout the myriad of things she and I did together over the course of her life. I thought about the countless things I have done to make her happy. The answer she gave never crossed my mind. Her response was, “What I love most is that Miss Pam gives you books for us to read.” Continue reading →
It is fantastic to know that you can teach your children the value of money by giving them a job. In many families, children think that the word MOM is an acronym for Made of Money. It is easy to understand why they think this. Mom and Dad supply all their needs and many of their wants. Food, clothing, shelter, technological gadgets, toys and all kinds of delights land at their feet with seemingly no effort at all. Children often grown up thinking that being given all they desire is their due. In fact it is not, children, like adults, need to work for what they receive. One of may favorite ways to describe this is the expression, “Game is sold not told. Fair exchange is not robbery.” In other words everything has a cost. Paying for things is fair and reasonable.
A great way to teach children the value of money is to give them jobs where they earn money that they can use to buy what they want. When children have to work for the money the spend they learn several valuable lessons. These lessons include the following:
1. Money is finite
2. If you buy one thing, you must sacrifice another
3. Some things are more valuable than others