Great is so close to good, it really doesn’t make sense to stop at just good. When I was in first grade my teacher, Mrs. Scott told us that takes so much effort to get even, you might as well work just a little harder and get ahead.
It takes a lot of work to be good at something. Most of the time, we do not get to good overnight. There is preparation, training, trying, re-trying and perfecting. Think about one of the first things that people ever learn to do – walk. No child goes from crawling to walking across the floor with ease and grace. To the contrary, at the start of things there are shaking steps while holding on to pets, furniture and parents. Later, there are shaky steps from one handhold to the next. Then after countless steps, falls, stops and starts, there is success. The baby, now appropriately called a toddler, is able to walk.
Over the course of a lifetime there will be many instances like this one. Learning to read, ride a bike, drive a car and even run a business. Life events and challenges will occur and you will have to work hard in order to get good at something. You will expend countless hours working to be a good person, a good employee, a good spouse, a good parent, a good entrepreneur and good at a myriad of things. It will take hours upon hours, upon hours to get to good. In fact, it will be exhausting work.
If you want to be happier when things are rough, take action now to get things done. You cannot let the trials and tribulations of life keep you from doing the things you need to do in order to succeed. There will always be problems, there will always be reasons to let fear and depression paralyze you. Don’t let it, instead, take action now, especially if things are rough and you will be happier.
During the first episode of the television show “Lost,” one of the characters, a doctor gave his method for dealing with a horrible, stressful, life threatening situation. He gave himself five seconds to freak out, panic and do a little crazy. Then he suckered it up and went to work doing what needed to be done. It may sound crazy, but that five second thing works I real life.
Over the course of my life I have used it many times, during very serious problems and it works.
It may not be possible to divide your time evenly between home and work but you can balance better if you learn to enjoy the good moments. So often when we are at work we feel guilty because we are not at home. Then, when we are at home or we take time away from work for family, we feel guilty for taking time off from work. What if instead, we enjoyed work when we are at work and enjoy home when we are at home?
Go to Work and Enjoy It, Let the Guilt Go
If you are a woman who works outside the home, guilt is often a constant companion. When you are at work you think about the things you need to do at home, the family events you are missing and if your family would be better off with you at home full-time. For some, the guilt is a constant nagging presence that never seems to go away. For others, the guilt is only noticeable when going to work means that a child’s school play is missed or dinner is served without mom being at the table. No matter which type of guilt you feel, let it go.
When you are at work, you will experience good things. There will be projects that are pulled off successfully. There will be raises, promotions and celebrations at work. Those are good things. Those are things you will want to celebrate and enjoy. Do it and don’t feel bad about it. Go to work, enjoy it and just let the guilt go.