When I was young, I listened to those people and worked hard to prove them wrong, to succeed despite the naysaying and mean wishes. As I grew older, I learned to ignore the naysayers. I learned that when people try to rain on my parade, I move my parade. In other words, when I encounter naysayers I literally tell them to shut up and stay out of my dreams and my business. I put people out of my life who make me feel bad about myself. There are friends and family members who use to be in my life who are now dead to me. I don’t miss the loss and I do not feel bad about it. My life is better and richer when I don’t have to worry that those who are supposed to care are going to hurt me.
Look at your life. Divide those you interact with into two groups: naysayers and others. When the naysayers start trying to put salt in the game aka crush your dreams and spirit tell them “shut up.” Do not worry about being rude. After all, those people don’t mind being rude and trying to destroy you! Tell the naysayers to keep your name and dreams out of their mouths. If they cannot shut up and cannot keep their poison to themselves, put them out of your life. It may be hard to do and it may be painful at first, but do it! Take it from me, you will be better for it!
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It is terrific to realize that you can control the naysayers in your life by telling them to shut up! So, the question for you this terrific day is, when are you going to stop listening to the naysayers and start listening to yourself?
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I always feel like the new year is perfect to stop wasting time on people who bring little value to your life. Say no to the naysayers in 2015!
It’s unfortunate that in this world, people will drag you down more often than they will try to lift you up. I think much boils down to values of teamwork, respect etc. along with the perseverance that each person must, within themselves; possess in order to become successful.
Great advice! I get so tired of hearing people be negative and try to squash your dreams. I love the quotes that you shared in this post. (Real Talk Moms).
I like when naysayers doubt me. I use their negativity as my motivation.
I like your attitude. Sometimes the best thing we can say to people is for them to mind their business and shut up! If they get ma andn leave us alone it is better for us all.
I like your attitude. It is better to let them go and keep moving. You do not need them anyway!
I agree, I am teaching my children this lesson now while they are young. I hope this will make it easier for them to brush off naysayers as they get older.
i love this!! gonna save to refer back to it. its so important to let let people bring you down
You are right, it is so important to just stay focused on our goals. Keep on movin’ on!
I hate naysayers but it took me a looooong time to not listen to them!
This is such a great post! I use it as motivation, I must be doing something right!
This is my new motto, I had to let a few people go this year. They will only get my behind to kiss moving forward.
I’ve never had a problem with telling people to shut up or mind their business. This is why people think I’m crazy lol. I love this post though. It will help someone who needs to hear it.
The older I get, the more comfortable I am with who I am. It bothers me less and less what other people think and say. And, I’ve had more time to prove myself so there are less people around saying “You can’t” or “You shouldn’t”…I already have. 🙂
It can be really hard to ignore negative people, but I never let them drag me down and I encourage my kids to do the same.
I totally agree! It’s hard to ignore the negative people, but it’s because they’re the devil on our shoulders. I do my best to ignore them though.
I like both your references and I really like the combination of Lincoln and the “Shake it Off” song!
I think there is a song out right now that says…”Shake it Off, Shake it Off!” Like Abe Lincoln said, you can’t please ALL the people, ALL the time!
Shake the negative off. There are only 24 hours in a day, how many do you want to give to bad people?
I have a friend with five kids. When people ask her “are all those kids yours?” She always responds “Just these five.”
Ahhh, wisdom, one of the benefits of growing older!
I am happy your naysayers disappeared. Success does tend to drive them away.
I need to take this to heart. The negative is so in my life right now.
You got this right. Stay positive and keep the negative away.
I quit listening to naysayers years and years ago.If I hadn’t I would be surrounded by negativity all the time.
Great post – there are so many i want to tell this too, I get tired of the ridicule. You have too many kids, yadda yadda yadda.
I quit listening to naysayers years and years ago. It is one of the positive things about aging. You just don’t care about that kind of thing anymore.
I just ignore people who doubt me. I used to hear a lot of naysayers when I started homeschooling my kids. Now two of them are in college with scholarships, and the naysayers have disappeared.
Yes! Sometimes it is hard to ignore the naysayers, especially when we have doubts ourselves. During those hard times, it is even more important that we ignore and shut out the naysayers.
Such great advice. I try to be my own cheerleader and ignore those naysayers, but it can be tough at times, can’t it?
The sad truth is, there is always going to be someone that has something negative to say. I say just ignore it.