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ABOUT JANEANE

Superwoman: noun

1. wife
2. mom of 4

I am Janeane Davis. I describe myself as a Superwoman, aka a wife and mother of four. I am an African-American mom blogger whose mission is to inspire, encourage and motivate women to be their best in business and at home.

I am the President and Chief Executive Officer of James, Davis and Associates, a private business consulting firm, If you need help motivating and inspiring your employees or making your business operations more efficient, we should talk.

Contact me directly at 215-586-3897, or janeanedavis@
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Nelson Mandela and Permission to Shine

Be like Nelson Mandela, let your light shine

Today the world, literally the world is abuzz with news of the death of Nelson Mandela who encouraged us to shine. So much of the talk is about the grand stands he took, the world-changing events he helped usher into place. He helped end apartheid and showed the world that when an oppressed people become free, they can rule without taking revenge on those that once oppressed them. He gave hope on a big scale, a world reaching scale. At the same time, his life and his words are relevant to each of us in our own small worlds, our own small pieces of the universe.

One of my favorite quotes from Nelson Mandela is the following:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others . . .

So often we play small, we don’t stand straight and claim our full space. This happens every time someone receives a compliment and instead of saying thank you and moving on, the recipient will say downplay the compliment, deny her worth. You have seen it:

Person 1: Wow Person 2, you did a great job on that presentation today. I learned a lot and I am glad I attended this session

Person 2: I did okay, there were many things I should have said but didn’t, I wish I had done better.

This is not a good conversation. Neither person feels good at the end of the day. Person 1 feels like perhaps she missed something or her skill set is not up to par since she thought an inadequate presentation was good. Person 2 feels bad because she just down played her good work. What if instead of the conversation above, the conversation went like this:

Person 1: Wow Person 2, you did a great job on that presentation today. I learned a lot and I am glad I attended this session

Person 2: Thank you for your kind words. I feel blessed that the presentation went well and I am so happy that what I shared had good and relevant information for you.

Do you see the difference? At the end of this last conversation, both people feel good because they have shared a special moment and shared an event they can remember fondly in the future.

Indeed, there are many lessons to be learned from the life of Nelson Mandela. Perhaps one of the most important ones is that we should not be afraid to be successful, to grow, to shine and to be the light that we are blessed to have within us. As Nelson Mandela stated so well in the quote above, we must let our light shine, because our light will encourage others to let their own lights out from under barrels. When we shine, grown and stand unashamed of being good, great and powerful, we encourage others to do the same. This encouragement is contagious and if allowed to grow, can change the world. We may not all be Nobel Prize winning statesmen like Nelson Mandela, but we can all shine.

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  • http://www.seanongley.com Sean O.

    Nelson Mandela did not say this. Sorry but it was this woman. Marianne Williamson. http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Marianne_Williamson

  • http://chronichealth1.wordpress.com chronichealth1

    Thank you for sharing this Jeanne! At times I don’t handle compliments too well and I’m a continuous work in progress. I’m continuously working on myself.

  • http://www.NateLeung.com Nate Leung

    Hi Jeanne!

    That is one thing that stood out in this post is we often play small. In the game of life, we need to play bigger. Thank you for the reminder!

  • John F.

    Yes. Nice quote, but according to the Nelson Mandela Foundation, it was neither authored nor used in any speech by Mandela.

    http://www.nelsonmandela.org/news/entry/deepest-fear-quote-not-mr-mandelas/

  • http://www.justusfourblog.com Shannah @ Just Us Four

    This is one of my absolute favorite quotes and definitely words to live by.

  • http://mypocketfulofthoughts.com Arelis Cintron

    That is one of my favorite quotes, I used it to talk to my girls in youth group about magnanimity …to let our light shine because that is what God made us for.

  • http://www.hairsprayandhighheels.net Angela Peters

    That’s one of my favorite quotes, and it reigns so true!

  • ClassySharelle

    Miss J:
    I have been anxious about creating a post about Nelson Mandela because I hate to say that I just dont feel like I know enough about him. Its not like President Obama who has grown a legend before our eyes, Mandela has grown over time, however I feel like I would be better by creating a post about him! Thank you for giving me the inspiration to do so!

    • http://www.janeanesworld.com Janeane Davis

      I remember when Mandela was released from prison and being happy he was free. I remember when he became president and thinking we would not see a black president in America in my lifetime, how wrong I was. I think Mandela, like a lot of historical figures who live past their famous accomplishments did great things that people reap the benefits of his actions without realizing from where the benefits came. I am looking forward to reading your take on mandela.

  • http://www.marvelousmommy.com Marvelous Mommy

    I love the quote!

  • StacieinAtlanta

    That is a beautiful quote. It was certainly sad to see such an amazing man die. He did so much good in his life. May he rest in peace and his legacy live on.

  • http://mamato5blessings.com/ Mama to 5 BLessings

    thank you for your post – I try to let my light shine for Jesus! :)

    • http://www.janeanesworld.com Janeane Davis

      Exactly! All good things come from above so we know that if there is any good seen in what we do, it is God!

  • http://deborahinfo.wordpress.com Deborah E

    What a lovely quote! Yes, said that Nelson Mandela passed, may he rest in peace.

  • http://twitter.com/blueviolet Liz (@blueviolet)

    I am so not good at that. I’ll deflect every single compliment!

  • http://twitter.com/KeciaHambrick Kecia (@KeciaHambrick)

    I think so many people trying to be modest and downplay anything they do, no matter how successful. I agree that it’s okay to be proud of what you do though!

  • http://twitter.com/TheNewClassy The *New* Classy (@TheNewClassy)

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts about Nelson Mandela. He will be missed.

  • http://mythoughtsideasandramblings.com Lisa

    Love that quote!

  • http://gravatar.com/cynthial1956 cynthial1956

    What a wonderful post. I am going to pass this on to my daughter, she is having a hard time feeling like she is shining.

    • http://www.janeanesworld.com Janeane Davis

      Wow, that is absolutely one of the best things anyone has ever said about something I have written. Thank you!

  • https://www.facebook.com/chrishelle.ebner Chrishelle Ebner

    Great words of wisdom. I always teach my kids to be graceful when complimented. It bothers me when someone cannot just accept a compliment. It is your achievement, claim it.

    • http://www.janeanesworld.com Janeane Davis

      I am a church girl and sometimes church people think accepting compliments is sinful pride. I see it as acknowledging tha God has granted you a talent or gift that you used in a good way.

  • http://www.gograhamgo.com Felicia

    Such a beautiful post and words of wisdom.

  • https://plus.google.com/104032650853858709119 Jennifer Brazil

    These are just the words that I needed to hear today! Thank you!

  • http://ahensnest.com Henrietta

    THis is so inspiring! It’s so true that we too often downplay our work and achievements, for many different reasons. I plan to be more conscious about accepting compliments and praise in the coming year!

    • http://www.janeanesworld.com Janeane Davis

      Good for you!!! I think when we learn to appreciate accepting complimens, we are able to give better compliments.

  • https://plus.google.com/108236119038701726877 Francine Morrell

    Fantastic post. Thanks for the inspiration!

  • http://domesticsuperhero.com Allyson

    This is so inspiring! Thank you for sharing these words!

  • http://fourthstpayphone.blogspot.com Caitlin

    So true! Thank you for posting this

  • http://www.food-ramblings.com Elizabeth@ Food Ramblings

    Thank you for the post– excellent post!!!

  • http://www.biggirlsguide.com/ sherry

    Great Post.. loss of a great man who changed the world. He left his mark for all of us showing us leave sadness and hate towards others at the door you just left. Then find a way to create change.

    • http://www.janeanesworld.com Janeane Davis

      Sherry, I like the way you described it, leave the bad then find a solution, excellent point.

  • http://www.woodartsuniverse.com Wood Arts Universe

    Great quote!!!