Words have power treat them as the powerful tool they are.
Today’s article is focusing on the idea that in order to be successful in business you must use language as grand as you are, as grand as you want to be. This article is part of a special Janeane’s World series called -Better You – Better Business. The articles in this series will share ideas on how to be a better woman and a better entrepreneur. We are calling this series – Better You – Better Business.
Often when you ask a woman to describe herself, her business or her accomplishments she will begin with, “I’m just . . . ” or “my business just . . .” or “all I did was just . . . “ This is unfortunate because it makes the person listening to her start thinking less of her as a person, her accomplishments, and her business. When you speak in minimizing language you tell those listening that you are lesser. You give the message that people were wrong to bestow you with praise and compliments. You make the person who gave you the compliment feel like they made a mistake by praising and complimenting you. In fact, you may make the person who complimented you feel bad. What a strange turn of events!
I am a church girl. I was raised with the idea that all good and perfect gifts come from God. Some people take that philosophy down a long road and say that one should be humble, eschew compliments and speak of one’s self in low terms. I think that there is another approach. When complimented, I respond honestly, “Thank you for your kind words, I am blessed to . . .” I like that answer because it allows me to accept the compliment and acknowledge where the complimented behavior or result comes from.
At the same time, I recognize that not every entrepreneur shares my faith or indeed has to in order to succeed. There is another great way to respond to a compliment. The response is “Thank you.” Just those two simple words are a full and complete sentence. Check out the following situations and see which exchange would leave participants feeling best.
Compliment: Diane, congratulations on writing that winning proposal and getting $100,000 in signed contracts.
Response: I just filled in the blanks on the Word document and turned it in. It was nothing special.
Compliment: LaShonda, great job on RFP. Thanks to you the company will make an extra $200,000 over the next year.
Response: Thank you.
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