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What a Thing to Say – I Had Nothing Better to Do — 116 Comments

  1. Very sweet! I would’ve gotten mad too, but when you look at it from a different angle, completely changes the meaning.

  2. so sweet. We’ve been married 21 years and it’s just getting better. We’ve had nothing but ups and very down downs. But life with him is all I need.

  3. Though I do think some men can think fast on their feet when it comes to calming wives down, I also think deep down it’s because they truly love us. This is a really lovely post.

  4. I will love you when you are 90 and your butt sags to your knees–

    I love that comment! And I love the last one as well- I get why you were upset at first… but when rereading it it made totally sense. Sounds like a wonderful man and a keeper!

  5. Sounds like a true love story! You both are lucky to have each other! Hope you’ll have many happy years more together!

    • Thank you for your kinds words. I am looking forward to us growing old, gray and wrinkled together.

  6. My husband says wonderful things all the time, too. Darren sounds like a keeper!

  7. I’m cracking up about his need to tell you the weather details in such a long-winded way. This was a sweet post, J!

    • He still drives me crazy with his long winded stories! But, since that is his worse characteristic, I am going to happily keep him.

  8. It’s funny the way we can take a statement when it’s meant an entirely different way. Kudos to you for seeing the way your husband meant, ‘nothing better to do.’

    • It took me a while to see it. I am glad I got there before I opened my big mouth too much!

  9. what a sweet post, I think I can relate. It definitely is for better or worse!

  10. An awesome post. I think just to let your spouse be themselves. (YES, they will grow up…I swear! lol)

  11. This has to be the sweetest post. I love that “nothing better to do”. I just shared it with my husband and he smiled. So stinking sweet, that man of yours.

    • He is a sweetie. Thank you for the compliment. He will like hearing about it.

  12. Aw, this was such a sweet post to read. Your relationship sounds stronger than ever!

  13. Awww, that is so sweet. Sometimes my husband throws me off by saying something totally unexpected like that, too!

    • You sound like Darren. He always says love hides a multitude of faults.

  14. Such a sweet post! Marriage is a lot of ups and downs and being able to weather those storms together is the key to staying together.

  15. I love that quote. It sounds like you have a wonderful marriage – you both respect and love each other.

  16. Awww!!! I love a good real life love story! There is some wisdom in your post. Thank you for sharing.

  17. I absolutely adore the way you have interpreted your husband and how you’ve shared it. Yes, that kind of love can withstand the tests and trials of time, growth and change. Blessings to your union.

  18. What a sweet post. My husband is my best friend and I’m fortunate to have someone as awesome as he is. Like you, I would have probably flipped out by the comment “I had nothing better to do that day” but if I ever hear it now, I’ll look at the phrase quite differently.

    • I am glad your husband is your best friend, it is a beautiful thing!

  19. Honestly, I have no secrets to lasting love. I think we’re winging it sometimes…but who really knows for sure? We dated in high school, broke up for twenty years, and now are married with 2 children, so I guess we’re doing something right this time around.

    • Like you, I have no secrets to lasting love. Perhaps we are still together because our kinds of crazy work well together!

  20. This is such a sweet post! I love reading about other happy couples. When so many people’s marriages fail, it is great to know that some are thriving.

    • Yes! When I read stories about people at 35, 50 and 70+ years it makes me feel good and hopeful!

  21. Patience & Pick Your Battles!!! LOL Happy Anniversary! XO πŸ™‚

  22. Congrats on your anniversary! I am not married but when my husband was alive I remember there were things that I loved and other things that drove me crazy. Lol. I would do anything to have just one more day with him. Even doing the things that drive me crazy. Your love story is beautiful

    • I am sorry your husband is no longer with you. I am happy you have happy memories to hold onto.

  23. Congrats on your recent anniversary! Love reading people’s love stories. My husband and I celebrate our 12th year this year. We got married young too at 19 (almost 20) and 21 and have grown so much with each other over the years.

    • You were so young also! I was 23 a whole month when we go tmarried. We grew up together it seems like. That seems similar to your story.

  24. The nasty quote got me! My two year old loves to say “ew Yucky Gross!” about mud and dirt.

  25. Aww now this is just so cute and wonderful. I love hearing about your journey with marriage. My hubby and I have had many ups and downs over the years but there was always something that kept us together.. through thick and thin. We both agree that the bottom line is that we love each other so deeply that we’re willing to work and fight through to make the best of our lives together.

    • It is nice when you have a teammate who is willing to work it all out with you no matter what.

  26. Congratulations to you! It’s so hard to keep a marriage strong and exciting. We’re six years in, and some days it’s effortless, and other days, it takes work to remember how we ever ended up together. You’re an inspiration.

  27. This is a great testament to how a marriage really works! My 10 year anniversary is in just a few days and I’m happier being married to my husband more everyday. We too have had ups, downs, and in-betweens, but patience, love, dedication, hope, and humor seem to make it all stick together for us!

    • Congratulations on your 10 years!! Yes, all that stuff you listed is what makes one year ten and ten years twenty and so on..

      • I can only imagine 23 years of wedded bliss! πŸ™‚ Congrats to you on making it such a great, long marriage full of love. I’m always in awe of those older couples who are celebrating crazy anniversaries! My great-grandparents made it 78 years. PHEW! lol

  28. That was so sweet! There are a few things that my husband does that make me crazy, but it’s so much better to think of the wonderful things our husbands do. πŸ™‚

    • Yes, it is better to think of the wonderful things. For most of us they outweight the bad things.

  29. This is great advice and the “better to do” comment would have made me react in the same exact way. My hubby and I have been hitting rocks here lately due to “space” he has been super clingy and pushy lately and it’s almost pushing me away , how can I get him to step back some?

    • Talk with him, find out why he has been clingy. Maybe there are things going on in his heart and in his life that make him feel nervous and he wants to be assured of your love and devotion.

  30. This is such a beautiful and inspirational post! I am going to celebrate 8 years married this May. So much that you said resonate with me.

  31. This is quite the blog post. As a newlywed, I know that we are in it for better or for worse. Thanks for sharing your story.

    • Congratulations newlywed. I wish you many happy and wonderful years.

  32. What a cute story! That’s great to hear though. You’re lucky to have a man like that πŸ˜‰ My recipe… date nights and daily communication πŸ˜‰

  33. Yeah, I’m pretty sure I would have thought the exact same thing…but that was an extremely beautiful thing he said. As far as my recipe for building a love that lasts…I tell my husband every day that I love him. Compliment randomly. Date nights ARE A MUST! We have 4 kids, so we hardly get time to ourselves lol

  34. Wow I think yes they are from mars, I do get what it means but I think us women we overthink everything men are lineal they are not looking 100 meanings for a single phrase us in the other hand

    • He often tells me he means one thing and I see 100 different meanings in every word or phrase.

  35. Well, I would have been with you on your first thought of thinking… When he said I had nothing better to do, I would probably have hit the roof, but after you explained it… I guess it is like Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus or something like that.

  36. Congratulations Jeanne to you and your husband for a long and happy marriage. I too have been blessed with a great one–my husband and I celebrated 35 years this year–and I believe it is just getting better and better. In fact I wrote a blog about it myself because I think it is so important to let others know that it is not only possible, the benefits are so very much worth the time and trouble… Here is my link in case any one is interested.. http://smartliving365.com/the-best-marriages-get-better-better-thirty-five-years-still-counting/ Thanks again for the reminder of how wonderful a good relationship can be. ~kg

    • Thank you for stopping by. I read your article before making this reply. Congratulations on your 35 years, you made me feel like a newlywed again! I like your list of traits for successful relationships. Thanks for sharing.

  37. Awesome story! Thanks for sharing. Me & my guy have been building a great foundation to our relationship. I pray that God blesses us to have as beautiful story as yours.

    • Thank you for your kind words! I pray God blesses you with a better story of your own. Working on your foundation is a great start.

  38. That Is beautiful and inspiring to all us single folk…sounds like a fairy tale but I’m happy to know that it is not some tv show but real life. I love Daniel with all of my being and I long for the day we can say the same about our marriage! Thanks for sharing with us!

    • Thank you! Sometimes we look at our lives and it is just life. But when we share our stories with others, their reactions give us a new appreciation for what we have, so thank you!

  39. This was so moving to read. I think the best parts of a marriage are the ups and downs, and the little things that make it memorable. We thrive off of that. And by reading your love story, I can tell that will always be true. Thank you for sharing with us, and Happy Anniversary!

    • Thanks Amiyrah! One of my favorite things about being together for a long time is the memories we have made. That is always the saddest part when friends break up. I wonder what they can do with all the memories they made together. Often the memories are not welcome in new relationships and they are painful to carry alone.

  40. This is so beautiful. You both are very fortunate to have found each other and very wise to hold on so beautifully.

    • Awww, Carol you are so sweet. I plan to keep him! Our marriage definitely is work, but all worthwhile things are. He is still worth the effort.

  41. Awww, this brings happy tears to my eyes *holds head back so they don’t fall* LOL Congratulations on you guys’ long term successful marriage and commitment towards each other!!!

    • Thank you Kesha! It is funny to me how long he has been around! It seems like just yesterday we were at CCP tutoring students arguing about who was the better tutor. Now we are wondering about tutors for our soon to be in college child! Time flies.

    • Thanks for your kind words. Marriage is hard work and not work for the weak at all! But, like many things that are hard work, it is worth it!

  42. What a beautiful post! Congratulations on your anniversary and more importantly your happiness. I too have found a wonderful man…we are so lucky to have that…all the days of our lives:) There is nothing better than having a partner (a true teammate) in life.

  43. Janeane, this is a wonderful love story. Thank you so much for sharing it with us! I just read it aloud to Terrence, and we are both praying for a marriage that stands the test of time like yours and Darren’s! Happy Anniversary!

    • Thank you for a wonderful compliment. Darren and I are praying that you and Terrence have a wonderful marriage full of every joy and happiness. I am looking forward to reading your 23rd anniversary story.

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