Respect, Like Charity Begins at Home
Children who do not respect themselves will have a hard time respecting others. When children know what respect is, and are used to respecting themselves the will associate respect with good feelings and positive outcomes. Children with a good sense of self-respect have a firm foundation that will make it easier for them to respect others and to see the need to respect others.
Sometimes, Respect Must Be Given, Even if it is Not Earned
It would be nice if we lived in a world where respect only had to be shown to those deemed worthy of it. However, that is not the world we live in. To the contrary, we often must show respect to those who we think don’t deserve it because they are unworthy. There will be teachers at school, coaches and later supervisors and bosses that must be treated with respect they may not deserve. Children who are taught to respect themselves understand that everyone is worthy of respect. These children will have a better time showing respect to others including those in authority.
The Golden Rule
The Golden Rule provides that we should treat others the way we want to be treated. Children who treat themselves with respect are treating themselves well. These children will have high standards for how to treat others. Children who treat themselves with respect want to be respected and as a result will treat others with respect. In this way, they make the world a better place.
You can find serenity in teaching your children self-respect because it sets a good foundation for the rest of their lives. So, the question for you this serene day is how do you teach your children to respect themselves?
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I know it is a crazy expression. It is one of the few things I got from my father, the notion that “one monkey don’t stop no show.” It is a memorable expression and once you say it a time or two you may find it gets stuck in your head. I know whenever my children hear the first part, they immediately chime in with the second. It means, if one thing doesn’t work out the way you want, keep going, it is not the end of the world.
It is important to prepare for what is to come and to be ready for the things to come. Many opportunities are lost because we are not ready, but planning to get ready. If you want to succeed in life you must learn, “you don’t get ready, you stay ready.” I often wondered if my children are actually paying attention to the lessons I teach them. My wondering stopped when I heard the following exchange between the twins, age 5 when they were playing a game:
Z: Stop C I wasn’t ready yet
C: You not supposed to get ready, you stay ready
I had to turn my head so they wouldn’t see me laugh. But you know I was proud.
In order to be a friend to others you must treat yourself as a friend. This is a fact, plain and simple. It is one simple enough for a brand new kindergarten child to learn. Many adults push this lesson out of their minds with the responsibilities and trials of adulthood. We treat our friends with:
Often, we forget to give ourselves the same treatment and that is a sad thing.