If you want to balance your work and home life in a way that works for you and your family – you need to act. Balance is not a passive thing. It is an active thing. If you want to achieve balance in your life, step up and act on it!
It is not an easy thing to balance your life at work and home, but if you act like a grown up, you can do it!
Each day, I speak with women all over the world. They vary in age, economic standing, religion and marital status. Yet, they all have one thing in common. They are all looking for a way to balance their responsibilities at work and home. It does not matter if they are stay at home moms, entrepreneurs or executives at major corporations, they are all looking for ways to balance it all. It is not easy.
Some do a better job than others of course. If you looked at them while they were standing around posing in a group photograph, you would never know which were the ones who succeeded. If you want to know which women are the ones who are able to balance work and home, you will notice one thing about them all, they are the ones who are on the move, the ones who are in action. Sometimes the action is physical. You can see them moving and doing things. Other times, the action is mental. In those cases, the women are making moves and making things happen, but you don’t see any of the action with your eyes.
When we are young, are under the control of others. Those others are our parents, teachers and other authority figures. As we get older, we become in charge of our own lives. It becomes our responsibility to make happen whatever it is we want to happen in our lives. Consequently, when you are an adult with work you must do and a life you want to live, it is your job to find a way to make it happen. A few years ago my daughter listened to a song from the movie “Cheetah Girls” the relevant words are:
I don’t wanna be like Cinderella
Waiting in a dark, dusty cellar
Waiting for somebody to come and set me free
I’d rather rescue myself
The words to that song have stuck with me for many years because they so crisply and clearly put the idea into words. It is your life. It is your job to make it what you want it to be. It is irresponsible to wait for someone else to come along and solve your problems. It is your job to rescue yourself. In other words, if you want to balance your responsibilities at work and home, it is your job to act and find a way to get it done!
Balance does not happen on its own. It happens because you decide to make it happen.
One of the biggest groups of people who have trouble doing the work life balance are work at home moms. These are the moms who have a business and obligations to spouses, children and themselves. Unlike traditional employees, these women work at home so they never leave the office when they are at home. At the same time, they never leave home when they are at work. Often the lines between work and home get blurred to the point where they cease to exist. Entrepreneurs have different problems, they are responsible for keeping the business running and if they have employees, they must make sure they continue to provide payroll so that employees may provide for their families. Even college students must learn to balance the demands of the academic world and the social lives they want to have. There is not one group of women that has it harder or worse than another. Indeed, each group has challenges that they must battle.
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