For many people who are between jobs, finding a new job is a necessity and not an option. At the same time, people are often demoralized after losing a job. It can be very scary and hard to look for a new job when you feel sad, angry or unhappy about being released from your previous job. If this is the situation you are facing, you may have to play some psychological games with yourself. By this I mean you may have to do some strange things like making the job search a game or an adventure. For example, try one or more of these ideas:
- pick three days in one week and see which day is the best day for finding a job
- predict which day will be the day you complete the most applications
- try to guess the most telephone contacts you can have in one day with potential employers
- roll a die to determine how many different versions of your resume you will create
In other words, if you have a hard job to do and don’t want to do it, trick yourself into it by making it a game or adventure and push yourself to get the job done. While you are working and trying to convince yourself that what you have to do is an adventure. Doubt and bad feelings will try to creep into your mind. Don’t let them! Whenever doubt creeps into your thoughts, say to yourself, “This is an adventure and I like this adventure.” If the doubts, nervousness and bad feelings are particularly difficult, you may have to actually say the words out loud. If this is the case, do it. No matter how silly this sounds or feels, actually say the words aloud to yourself. In the beginning you may be saying the words to yourself once every minute or so. However, as time goes on you may be able to go five minutes without talking to yourself about how much you like the adventure you have embarked upon. Keep up with the exercise and eventually you will be surprised that the either you have fallen for your psych job and don’t have to keep talking to yourself or you will find that the task at hand has been completed!