decide to balance it allIf you want to succeed and balance it all at work and home, simply decide you are going to be successful and then act like you can do it. Balancing work and home is not easy and it takes work to accomplish, but you can do it.

Have it All By Defining What “It All” Is

Blogs, newspapers, magazines and television talk shows are full of people telling women whether or not they can have it all. The debates about whether women can have successful careers, well-adjusted children and happy marriages are almost constant. There is no shortage of opinions on both sides of the issue. My experience has shown that you can have it all when you create your own definition of what it all is. When it comes to balancing all the roles you play the first thing you must do is understand what each role plays and its importance in your life. Here are a few of the roles I play in my life:

  • woman
  • wife
  • mother
  • writer
  • consultant
  • friend
  • daughter
  • sister
  • partner
  • boss
  • employer
  • confidant
  • member

When you look at that list, it is clear that there is a lot going on in my life. Anyone of those roles could take up the majority of my day all by itself. However, on most days I am required to juggle several of those roles at the same time. It takes time, it takes hard work and the skills of a juggling master to handle all these things on the same day. To make the juggling act even more difficult is the fact that these things have to be done on the same day and they have to be juggled. I have been a wife for 26 years and a mother for 20 years. I own a consulting company with clients who depend on me to do work for them in a timely manner and for that work to be of good quality. I am a human being and need to take time from my day to eat and sleep. When you look at that long list of roles I must play personally and professionally you will understand why it is called a balancing act.

When you get up each morning and think about all you have to do personally and professionally it may be overwhelming. You may wonder how you are going to balance all the obligations and keep both your professional and personal sides happy. Instead of getting upset, frustrated and threatening to throw in the towel, simply decide you are going to work it all out and be happy. In fact, say those words out loud, “I am going to work it all out and get done what I need done today.” Words have power. Words have strength. There is a reason people say the pen is mightier than the sword. The best way to start balancing all you have to balance is to say you can do it and then look for ways to make it work.

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