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It is magnificent to know that even after almost a quarter of a century of marriage, you can still have great date nights and KY #YoursandMine I purchased at Walmart can help make them even better. I am many things: wife, mother entrepreneur, blogger, consultant and legal analyst among others. If you look at that list, you will notice that wife is listed first. That is because when all those other jobs are done and gone and I will still be married. Sometimes when I am fortunate, the work I do as a blogger with #CollectiveBias helps me in my role as a wife and when that happens things are fun. After all, how many jobs encourage you to go on a date with your spouse?
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My husband and I have one of the best and most beautiful love stories ever. I remember wanting to marry him the first time I met him when he told me Marx was an idiot. It took me a while to understand the profound and deep compliment of him telling me he married me because he had nothing better to do. I became a Starbucks fan simply because he told me to take a break from him and the kids and have a night to myself once per week. I have spent most of my life, loving appreciating, admiring and wanting to be around him. As a result, I want our personal relationship to flower, bloom, grow and develop like all other areas of our lives. Going on dates and spending time alone without the children is all a part of that.
Photo courtesy Wanda Thomas MadCris Images
When our Spelie (the former Teenie Bopper) went off to college at the end of the summer, not only did we lose our eldest baby, we lost a great free baby sitter! Then as it often does, life got busy with new school schedules, work, business ventures and so many more things. so we planned a date night for at a local hotel. This was a chance to have a grown up date night where we would only have to think about our relationship, closeness,reminisce about past intimate moments and find the passion to create new ones. Many younger readers may think intimacy dies with the passage of time, but that does not have to be the case. If you do it right, even after decades of marriage romance, intimacy and joy in the presence of your spouse is something that can last forever.
Working women, no matter if you work at home, at an office or are an entrepreneur traveling for days at a time all seem to want the same thing from their spouses when it comes to personal time. They all want the time spend with their spouses to be special, memorable and as much fun as possible. A great way to do that is with date nights. There are all kinds of great ways to make date night special. For example:
- have a special romantic dinner with “dessert” after the kids have been put to bed at night
- hire a sitter and take in dinner, a movie and even dancing
- turn date night into date day by having your date time during the day while the children are at school
- create a babysitting trade option with a friend so that you take turns having date nights and share babysitting duties
- make a reservation at a local hotel for just the two of you
Over the past twenty-four plus years, we have done all the options listed above with success. Recently we made a reservation at a local hotel and prepared for a weekend of quality time without the children. We are fortunate that we live in an area with an abundant amount of hotel rooms. If you live in an area with a lot of business traffic, you may find as we did that rooms are less expensive on the weekend as the business travelers go home. The hotels lower prices in hopes of getting the rooms filled on the weekends. We had a beautiful room with a luxurious view of a very famous local mall. When picking a hotel for your date night or date weekend, be sure to pick one with a choice of restaurants nearby or on the premises. It is nice to be able to check into the hotel then walk to dinner, avoiding the stress of driving and trying to find parking.
We arrived at the hotel as early as possible so that we had time to check in, take our bags to the room and relax. We did not have to rush to get anything done. There were no children knocking at the door, no salesmen knocking and no telemarketers calling. Once we got relaxed in the hotel room we both took a luxurious bubble bath of our own. We used our favorite soaps, lotions and bubble baths.The warm water, good smells and luxurious lotions did more to set a romantic mood and make us excited about what was to come than you may realize. During our hotel date, one of the things that made me smile was the site of my husband falling asleep as he relaxed and truly got to enjoy his bath without fear the twin girls would run into the bath room to tell him something “really important.”
When we got to dinner, we took our time. We ate slowly and enjoyed each bite. This was a chance to actually enjoy your food without cutting someone’s chicken or asking someone to eat their vegetables, stop kicking his sister or get her string beans off her brothers plate. Instead, I got to look over at my husband and really see those eyes I fell in love with all those years ago. Those eyes may have a few more wrinkles in the corners and the curly hair I used to love to caress and stroke during intimate moments was still there, underneath all that dignified gray. All these years later and those eyes still excite and delight me.
I do not drink often. After all when you are a WAHM with three young children at home you need to be at full attention at all times. At dinner, I was able to try a new adult drink. I tried a pomegranate Cosmopolitan. I splurged and had the bar tender use top shelf vodka so the drink was smooth, delicious and sweet. The drink, the delicious dinner and my handsome dinner companion made me feel so happy, so relaxed and so ready for what was to come in just a while. When we got back to the room after the delicious meal we felt so happy, so relaxed and so ready to enjoy ourselves and each other. That is when we brought out the KY Yours and Mine. I will not share all the juicy from the rest of the evening. I will say that if you experiment with KY #YoursandMine, you will discover new things and feel wonderful things. I know the saying is that you cannot teach a new dog old tricks. But when it comes to romance, intimacy with your spouse and personal time, you can find new things to make you feel young again and that help you appreciate all you have learned about each other over the years.
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In conclusion, it is magnificent to know that even after almost a quarter of a century of marriage, you can still have great date nights and KY Yours and Mine I purchased at Walmart can help make them even better. So, the question for you this magnificent day is, what new things have you learned about or with your spouse that make life better and more fun?
I love that after all those years of marriage, the fire is still there! #client
Yes, as much as we love our children, it is nice to get away and just be a married couple from time to time. The years fly by! I cannot believe how quickly we went from honeymoon to today.
Brandi, I am loving that title – OG Wife!!!!! That sounds so much better than just – Old Married Lady. Yes, kidnap your husband and take him away. It is a fun thing to do an something you can do once in a while. Fun things like that turn happy young wives into happy OG Wives!
Love this! That looks like an awesome date night. A night away from the kids and in a posh hotel, would be a dream come true right now. And yay for y’all 25 years!!
You know what? I’m going to have to get Terrence away one weekend. I’m going to kidnap him and take him to a hotel! Thanks for the idea! I find it makes sense to take advice from OG Wives like you. Clearly you know what you’re talking about!
My hubby and I have date night every night. Not a date out of the house however, but we make sure we have dinner, or a chat, or a movie together every night.
We all need to remember date night. So important for healthy happy couples. Also, your kids are so cute in that “grossed out” pic!! lol
This reminds me that my husband and I REALLY need a date night! I can’t remember the last time we were able to go out together alone without our daughter. It’s going to be even harder when our second child arrives so we better get on this!
It really is so important to take time for each other. Kids will not always be at home, and a marriage needs to stay strong always.
We’ve been neglecting date night really, really badly. It’s incredible how much of an effect it can have on a marriage to lose that time. It’s definitely on our list of priorities for the new year (and I bet our kids will act the same way once they get a little bigger!) lol
Your children’s expressions are priceless lol. Congrats on 25 years. I’m only 7 years in, but it’s the most wonderful journey ever. We try to make time for weekly date nights as well.
This is so sweet! I love how kids always get that grossed out look when their parents kissed!! lol!
Date nights are fun. They are even more fun when you’re grown up and there’s no curfew!! 😉
I loved this. Its so important to keep the romance in. It has been a struggle since having our son a year ago, but great ideas here..thank you 🙂
Keeping the romance alive is always important. Date nights help a lot!
You have such a beautiful family! Great post!
I like the idea of a cruise. We have not done that yet. I would love a child free cruise. I have to barter some babysitting with friends!
I love this, and love that family photo Janeane. LOL Hubby and I do all of the suggestions above but haven’t done a local hotel in a really long time (we did go on our first cruise this past summer though without the kiddos). So you’ve inspired me to set that up as a surprise for my love. Thanks for sharing!
Dates nights are so important! Thank you for sharing
It is important to have fun with your spouse on a regular basis so he won’t think he can only have fun with someone else. Fun, like charity, should start at home.
Date nights are so necessary to keep the romance alive! Hubby and I try to squeeze one in atleast twice a month.
Maria, I think those yuck faces are universal.
When you have children, it is important to find a way to hide from them to have nice romantic evenings.
You are correct, date night is something that never gets old.
Hahaha, I will tell Darren that it was my smarts that made me fall for him not his charm! But that would be a compliment to him as well. Ahhh, perhaps that is why it we have lasted as long as we have.
The children like that we are mushy and in love, they want it for themselves, they just don’t want to see it in person. It is funny.
Yes we are looking forward to trying the date package special at a local hotel. Weekend rates are often really affordable.
The kids’ expressions in the photos are exactly what we see from them at home! With those expressions, you know date night has to hit the road.
OMG, your family is just beautiful and those expressions on the kids’ faces are just priceless! Thanks for sharing!
Love the faces the kid are making! Great idea to check out local hotels for great weekend rates because the business travelers aren’t there!
Ha! The kids expressions are priceless. Isn’t it amazing how they never want to see the mushiness between us adults? lol. Great to see that you still honor date night and keep it spicy!
Smart woman to catch a man with such a great pick up line! It’s so important to make time for each other, especially during the busy holiday season.
I love date nights! They were fun then and they’re still fun now!
We love date night at our house too : ). Glad you could get away with your husband. Your children are adorable!
I had to smile at the kids faces. Mine do the same thing too. After 10 years of marriage it can be tough finding time to have a date night together. Might have to do what you did and take some time AWAY.
So happy to hear that the spark is still alive!! Glad you guys had fun!
I love the photo with the kids getting weirded out about the kissing, my kids do the same thing.
MJ, the years will fly by and one day the two of you will look back and see there is more time together than before one another and be amazed. I am happy to have you on the happily married journey with us!
Janeane I love this post. A quarter century worth of brown love is so inspiring to me! I am just starting out on my marriage journey. Thank you for sharing your love! It is oh so appreciated.