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Want to Be Confident? Grab Your Big Girl Panties!

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Being confident in life is a three-part procedure that starts before you get out of bed in the morning. First, you put on your big girl panties and decide you are a confident person. Second, you put on your fake it until you make it (with work) dress by behaving as if you are confident. Third, put on your accessories, which are the clichés that will get you pumped up and keep you going when things get hard or go wrong.

Think of these three steps like a recipe. When you put all the ingredients together you will have exactly the confidence you need.

Step One: Put on Your Big Girl Panties

For many women, there is a certain undergarment that makes her feel grown up, special and powerful. Those are her big girl panties. The one she puts on in the morning when she knows good and important things are going to happen that day.

Take a moment right now to take a deep breath and picture your favorite big girl panties in your mind. For some people, these panties will be plain white comfy granny panties. For other people, it will be a delicious treat of a pair of panties from your favorite lingerie shop. It doesn’t matter. Just picture your favorite grown-up panties and picture yourself pulling them up and on. When you have put on your big girl panties in your mind, you have started your mental preparations to have a confident day.

You start creating and having the confidence you want by putting on your big girl panties and deciding you will have the confidence you want. Creating confidence starts in your mind. It starts with you mentally preparing to be confident. This is done by actually deciding that you will be confident. It is the essential first step in the journey towards confidence. You can do this. Almost everyone who wants to be confident can be confident with the right preparation.


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It all starts before you get out of bed in the morning.

The right preparation starts before you ever get out of bed in the morning. Preparation for confidence starts in your mind. Once you make the decision, you create a plan to make it happen while you are still in bed, before you sit up and let your feet touch the ground. This means you decide to show up like a grown-up and take responsibility for your own life.

No matter what has happened in the past, you can be confident. No matter what shortcomings you think you have, you can be confident. It doesn’t matter how many people call you a failure, you can be confident. You hold the keys to confidence in your hand and no one can take them away. Keep in mind, that if you lose your confidence, you can pick it up again. You can pick it up just like you can pick up keys you have dropped.

Start the day by telling yourself you are confident. Do not say you will be. Do not say you want to be. If doubt creeps into your thinking as  you talk to yourself, shake your head. Literally shake your head no and then tell yourself again that you are confident.  Simply say

“I am confident. I have the confidence I need to do whatever I want.”  

Do this each morning before you get out of bed. When you wake up say the words. It sounds silly. But is not. Your words have power. If you tell your something often enough you can start to believe it and you can live it. Don’t worry about how it looks. Don’t worry about how it sounds. When you wake up each morning, tell yourself that you are confident.

Do not think about how it will work. Do not try to figure out how you will make it happen. At this crucial beginning point, the hows do not matter. Simply decide to have the confidence you want and then move forward. Say the words “I am confident. I have the confidence I need to do whatever I want.” Say the words in your head and say them out loud.

Your words have power. Your words have strength. By saying the words over and over again, you can talk yourself into being the confident person you want to be. This is the first step. It is crucially important.

If your mind can conceive it and your heart can believe it, you can acheive it.

Years ago, Jesse Jackson said, “If my mind can conceive it and my heart can believe it, I can achieve it.” This quote explains how claiming confidence works. If you can think you have confidence and you can believe you can have, you can actually be confident. That is why even if you are not confident now and even if you do not believe you can be confident you must claim you are confident each morning. When you claim you are confident, you have conceived it. Your mind has entertained the possibility that you can have all the confidence you want.

Even if you do not believe you are confident or that you will ever be, you can change things. By telling yourself each morning that you are confident you will eventually believe that you are confident, that you can have all the confidence you want. Be encouraged and stand strong in the faith that if you keep telling yourself that you are confident, you will believe it, and eventually you will live it. The confidence you want is easily within your grasp. Just claim it.

In the real world, you put on your big girl panties one leg at a time. You do it one step at a time, the whole while believing that you will succeed at getting the panties from ankles to hips. When you are putting on your underwear, you do not wonder if you are going to be able to do it. You take for granted that you will be able to put your feet in, pull them up over your legs, up over your hips, and fix the waistband where it belongs.

When you put on your big girl panties, you get ready to deal with whatever is coming your way.

Putting on your big girl panties is a figure of speech which means get ready to deal with all you are going to encounter. All the while recognizing that though there may be some difficulties ahead, you must move forward toward accomplishing your goals. Just as you step into your panties with full faith you will get them up and on, step into confidence. When you tell yourself you are going to be confident, do no allow room to doubt yourself. Claim the confidence you want as if you already possess it.

When you put on your big girl panties you recognize that you control your destiny.  Putting on your big girl panties means you can take the steps necessary to make your world what you want it to be.  When you claim you are confident, you have the confidence you need to be successful start doing the things you want to do. Do not worry about if you will succeed or fail at what you attempt. Put those thoughts out of your mind. Push forward and do the things that need to be done.

The next time you have something hard or scary to do, don’t pause to think of reasons why you cannot do it. Just picture yourself pulling up your panties, stepping up, and doing the job.

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