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Never Let Them See You Sweat – What I Learned from My Husband in 2013 — 50 Comments

  1. My husband is always telling me to stay calm…stop letting people control my emotions. What a brave thing you did…as mothers we know how to get into that mother role when we need to and at that time it wasn’t about how Janeane felt but more of how you make sure your daughter get the best care & get well! Bravo to you & to your husband!

  2. I remember the day that happened and couldn’t imagine my response or being in your shoes. I am learning from your experience, to place value on what’s important and to not fear what you cannot control.

  3. Yes, I am with you…sometimes things people tell us, especially our closest peeps, goes in one ear and out the other. But when we need it most, just like you did in April, it helps us, consoles us, even saves us and I’m so glad your hubby had your back! I wish you guys many more years together!

    And although your daughter doesn’t know me, give her a big hug for me. Tell her some people (unlike that driver) genuinely care about others and show it, even when she doesn’t see or know them. 🙂

  4. WOW.. kudos for sharing this part of your life with us.. I bet it was scary and not easy at all… ((HUGS))) and soo glad things are looking much better… you have been strong and you will stay strong, I just know it…

  5. I am also VERY saddened that this happened to you! It really is awful, your husband (and yourself) are very admirable!

  6. This is pretty important to remember. Being able to control our emotions to be continue to do what we need to do is definitely a life skill.

  7. Sometimes hiding that “sweat” from the world helps us hold on until the real confidence comes back.

  8. I can’t imagine how hard that must have been on your family! Is that a photo of your daughter now? What a sweetheart. I bet she learned a lot from your steadfast support!

  9. That last statement you made about sometimes it is ok for them to see you sweat is a good one. It is hard to know when to turn it on and off though isn’t it?

  10. Nurses are heroes to me. I have only ever been a patient when giving birth to my children and the nurses are the people who kept me alive, safe, secure and feeling good. Thank you for all you do.

  11. Oh my! My heart is filled to the brim for you! It demonstrates that no matter how hard a day is, there can be worse and you are testament to being able to walk through it and love and give that love and strength to your little one. Ironically, “never let them see you sweat” is one of my favorite sayings. I used it often and it has been helpful. Though, sometimes, I have had to remind myself it is ok for them to see me sweat…

  12. Wow, you’re amazing. And so is your hubby. I’m hoping everyone is good? I do love the “Never let them see you sweat” – I LOVE that. I’ve said that to my girls a lot… but in different words. Basically telling them, no matter how you feel, LOOK confident. It helps.

  13. I just want to go and hug you! I’m so sorry that this happened to you.

  14. Janeane,, you are such a strong woman and very lucky to have a strong husband. I am a nurse and see so many families fall apart when they are having to face difficult decisions. Your husband did well to teach you that lesson, and you did even better to listen and learn.

  15. Wow, I am not even sure what to say. I am so sorry for your loss and so happy that you have the support to make it through this. I pray that the person who did this has been found. No matter, he will suffer his whole life. You and your family will be able to find peace though.

  16. Wow Janeane… thank you for sharing such a deeply profound and raw story with us. I hope the driver was eventually upheld to justice, one way or the other, for their actions. Part of my work as a healer/therapist involves assisting people with emotional release and creative expression, so I believe that true and core strength can still be shown through the intensity of tears 😉 You have a wonderful, supportive spouse. In answer to your question, I am only married six years, and have probably doubted things every four months or so – thus, I am still learning so much with my husband. He is continually teaching me patience, trust, and to see the humor in all things.

  17. That is terrible that someone would do that! How wonderful you had such an amazing spouse to support you.

  18. So sorry to hear about your accident. I have learned from my husband that I am a lot stronger then what I thought I was. I think we teach each other new things all the time.

  19. Sorry to hear you were in such a terrible accident, happy to learn you and your daughters turned out OK. I don’t have a spouse but I’m very observant of people and I don’t understand why many see emotion and kindness as a weakness, it pains me to have to agree with don’t let them see you sweat but I’m starting to see how people are and I am very disappointed.

  20. I have learned from my husband how to stay calm in difficult situations.

  21. What a horrible situation to go through! Your husband sounds very wise indeed, and that is wonderful advice!

  22. You handled it when it needed to be handled. Bravo to you for keeping so collected at a most difficult time!

  23. What a scary experience! How is your daughter doing now?

  24. How scary and awful. I’m not sure if I would be able to have that much poise and self control in a situation like that. It was really good advice he gave you, and I’m glad it helped you to stay calm.

  25. Wow, I had no idea you had gone through such a life-changing experience this year, Janeane! I’m so glad that everything turned out for the best. I’ve only been married for a couple of years, but I’ve already learned so much from my wonderful husband. I hope that we are still teaching each other new things after 23 years, as you and your husband are. 🙂

  26. Bravo for being so strong! I would have been an emotional mess.

  27. I couldn’t imagine myself if I had an accident with my kids and they are the ones in a big harmful state. I would probably feel horrible or guilty or something… I just don’t know… What you did is a wake up call to us Moms. Thank you for that. I think you did great though. Moms nature to take good care and be at their kids at all times. I’m glad your husband did not get angry. He loves and cares for you too 🙂

  28. It’s amazing what we can do when it’s for our babies, huh?

    How are you all doing now? That had to be such a hard time!!

  29. Kudos to you for being able to stay calm and react so well in such a scary situation! I couldn’t imagine having to go through that, and I doubt I could handle it all like you did. I do agree though that we can learn new things from our spouses after years of marriage!

  30. What a scary, scary time in your life.

    My husband basically says the same thing, but not so eloquently. Basically…why care what other people think? Sometimes it’s easier said than done.

  31. That is an inspirational story (and a crazy one, because I can’t believe another human being could just drive off like that. Terrible.)! My husband teaches me lots, mostly not to let other people get to me. I’m not really thin-skinned, but sometimes I let things bother me that I shouldn’t.

  32. What an amazing story! I am so sorry that you had to go through that, but your husband’s advice certainly helped! My spouse is full of old wisdom like that too!

  33. My husband has taught me to have faith in myself. Many times I have idea that I want to try but there is a little voice inside me saying that it wouldn’t work. He always tells me to try and believe.

  34. Bless your heart. I’m realizing too that a spouse usually knows us better than we give them credit for. Glad your little girl is alright.

  35. I am blessed to have my family. We are a crazy bunch, but we do pray together and work it out.

  36. Thanks for your kind words. It is weird how people can tell us things over and over for years and it never sticks, then one day that piece of advice is the best thing ever and saves your life! And yes, Darren is wise, I think I will keep hiim. hahahaha

  37. My heart goes out to you. I would have buckled in the first minute. Your husband was wise to tell you this; because believing that if you broke down it would affect your daughter’s health negatively gave you strength to keep it together. It sounds like you have a very strong family that can conquer all. Bless you and God be with you, especially at this time of year. All the best to you and your family.

  38. I cannot imagine how painful and difficult that whole experience must have been for you. It sounds like you dug deep and did what you had to for your daughter. It’s interesting how certain bits of advice that we get from friends and loved ones stick with us, and help us in times of need. Your husband sounds like a very wise man.

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