Working to reach our goals is a hard thing. The amount of sacrifice, struggle and work that goes into achieving a major goal is tremendous. Going from dreaming about something to accomplishing something changes us. Sometimes, the person we are at the end of the process is vastly different from the person we are at the start of the process. Sometimes, our friends and family say they do not recognize the people we have become at the end of our journeys. This is not always a bad things.
You can change for the better and become unrecognizable to those who knew you at the start of the journey. When you put in the work to obtain a college degree for example, you are exposed to different ideas, you are trained to think in new ways and have expanded powers of observation. All of these things make you different as a person. Similarly, getting married and working to make the marriage a success changes you in ways not imaginable before the marriage. Raising children gives you a perspective on the world that changes how you see things. There is something about being responsible for the life and upbringing of another person that changes you and gives you priorities and interests that you never had before. People who you knew before marriage and before children may not know the new you. You may be unrecognizable to them, but that would not stop you from marrying the love of your life or having children. In other words, people may say they do not recognize you at th end of your journey to achieve a dream, but that does not mean you were wrong to try to achieve your dream!
At the end of the story, the Velveteen Rabbit had achieved his dream – he was real. Not only did he achieve his dream, he was happy. That is a goal worth shooting for. After all, don’t we all want to be happy? Happiness is so important, such an ingrained need that it was written into the Declaration of Independence that all people have the right to pursue happiness. The right to pursue happiness does not mean that it is free or that we will not be changed by the pursuit. Often people are changed along the way, in the course of pursuing happiness. They are changed, transformed and sometimes become a whole new person.
The thought of becoming a new person as the result of achieving your goals may be scary. It may be frightening to think that you will become a different person after reaching your goals. Do not let that fear stop you from going after big goals and achieving big dreams. So, the question for you this sensational day is, what are you willing to do to be “real” to accomplish your goals?