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Two Friends in the Rain or Does Race Matter — 12 Comments

  1. Perhaps I am the opposite of you. I am never shocked by these stories. I just take for granted some people have problems with race or will not act fairly because of it and keep moving. I cannot change other people. All I can do is control how I react and keep moving where I want to go.

  2. Wow, I don’t know why I am always shocked to hear such stories. My family is very mixed. We come in all shades of the rainbow. I never think of race or racism unless someone brings it up. It is not to say that it does not exist because I know it does. To me it just doesn’t make sense.

  3. It is nice to have friends who are different because it helps give us a realistic idea of what different kinds of people are like. One of my favorite things to do is debate things on social media with a friend who is a Republican and a Cowboys fan. I am a LIBERAL Democrat and a fan of all Philly teams so it is interesting. At the same time, we do learn that peole are people and there is a way for us all to get along and live in this world.

  4. My friends and I discuss race quite a bit. I have mostly white friends, and one of my really good friends is a conservative Catholic. So, we tend to have some great conversations. With that said, our friendship has never been affected by our conversations and views. We all know how real racism is, and our friendship has actually helped my friends encounter it first-hand (being friends with a black person in certain situations can create uncomfortable experiences).

  5. I have always taught my children that racism is real and it exists. I taught them about race and themselves at home and gave them the tools needed so they would not be surprised or hurt by things they were likely to encounter in the world. I wonder when mothers like me will not have to prepare our children for racism they will face in the world.

  6. I just had this conversation this morning. There are times when I think we’ve made so much progress and then certain events happen that make me really stop and check myself. I grew up in the South – Charleston, SC. I’m used to subtle and not-so racism, being called “girl” and referred to as “you people” and being told “my place”. As the supervisor of an eclectic group of people in a company that’s upper management is dominated by middle-aged, white men – I’m often mistaken for an hourly associate or spoken around or at (rather than to) when dealing with outside vendors from certain parts of the state. I’ve been told (by people of different races) that my phone voice can be misleading and I sound “white”. I’ve had to explain to my children what the n-word means when children their age and younger used it towards them. So, yes, my friends and I discuss race and sometimes we have to laugh to keep from crying. I will say I’m glad to have a diverse group of friends that feel comfortable broaching the subject of race relations with me. By having an open dialogue, we’re able to dispel many of the mistruths and assumptions that are out there.

  7. Glad you liked it. We each experienced different things based on our lives and our histories it was good to see it from the other side. I liked sharing the story with her.

  8. I always pray, “May my words be soft and sweet because tomorrow I may have to eat them.”

  9. It was a funny incident because it was a life changing walk for her, but for me it was just Friday. Two different sides to the same event. It makes you think . . .

  10. I would have a discussion and have had this discussion with my friends. In fact I had a discussion yesterday with a friend, about how racism is taught by simple comments.

  11. It is nice that you can have conversations that may be uncomfortable for many with your friends. I think that is what we all strive for but doesn’t always happen. Makes me sad that our world can still be like this. Like Heather said…someday.

How do these ideas work in your world?

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